Tuesday, December 8, 2009


My mom and I had a lovely morning yesterday visiting with some old friends. Now, I've talked about friendship here before and how important it is to have deep connections with people, how having and hanging on to those connections enrich our lives, and warm the corners of our hearts in a special way...
I believe that "soul mate" doesn't just apply to the love of our lives, to that one special person we find to spend the rest of our lives with, our partners in life... I believe that we can also find soul mates in our friends as well, people who are very dear to us, people who find that path to our soul, and make it to the depth of our hearts and that bond can never be broken.

I grew up with Hilma, we were neighbors back home, our families shared many happy and sad days together, made it through tough times and endured hardship through togetherness and laughter. And when you've been through so much together, be it good times or bad...that bond is so deep that it becomes a part of your life, your very essence and ultimately a part of your soul. Through that very connection your character is molded into who you become later in life. After we moved to the United States we stayed in touch, but the separation was still there, and even though they moved here a few years later we were still separated, not by distance but by the different paths our lives took us. However, when you do have that special bond, no matter how many years or miles you've missed... you are still very much a part of each others lives. You think of one another often, you remember all the experiences you've had together, and when you once again are face to face.... it's as though you didn't miss a thing.

These are the kind of friendships that stand the test of time, of distance and remain strong forever. These are the kind of friends that you can still call on when you need something...anything, and you feel safe in knowing that they will always be there for you no matter what, as you would be there for them. I feel very fortunate to have made such connections in life and cherish each memory, every walk down memory lane warms my heart.
These connections are very important and essential in being human, it's what makes us who we are and ultimately how we choose to live our lives.

So cherish those deep connections, feed them, nurture them and hang on to them...for a life without them is a sad and lonely existence...

I love you Hilma and appreciate all that I've had with you and your beautiful family.



  1. I've never before heard a friend described as a soul mate, but you are so right. We are as blessed to find those friend soul mates as we are to find a partner who is a soul mate. Here's to the bonds that can't be broken.

  2. I think it's awesome that you and Hilma have remained close. That tells me a lot about your character :)

  3. ... I am in tears :) I'm happy, I'm blessed, I'm fortunate, I'm thankful, I'm lucky...and I'm honored!
    You don't know how your today becomes the goodness in someone's tomorrow! You don't know how much remains in one's heart for lifetime, when it is touched!
    I'm speachless ...
    Just feel sooo fortunate to make a part in your heart. Your heart is in your writings, your heart speaks through your pen, and your heart is BEAUTIFUL!
    Love you sooo much sister!
    Thank you, thank you and thank YOU!

  4. beautifully written, as always! I think you're right about soul mates - friends have a deep impact on us and they are invaluable.

  5. You are right my beautiful daughter. There is an old saying. "Good friends are better than some relatives"

  6. wonderfully put as usual! i too believe in soulmates..more than one. cos lifes just too short. why not make a connection?

  7. i can tell you are a great friend.

  8. You bring up a really interesting point. To take it on a slightly different bent, I have often wondered about the whole "one true love" and "soul mate" thing too. How do you know that there isn't a better soul mate waiting for you in Siberia? You know? It's all kind of relative and random. I'm not saying we don't end up with the people we're supposed to be with - God truly puts us where we need to be to find our match. But the world is big and wide and we only bump into a miniscule percent of the people that live on it. Still... I wouldn't trade my wonderful husband for anyone. So I guess it just works out.

    Thanks for the great post.

  9. This beautiful, pure, full of love/life words were making me little emotional to write yesterday.
    I feel very blessed for growing up around you guys and having so many positive role models to look up to.
    erp irar hetenk kartses mek dsvits durs ekats chter linenk:}manumentsiner Rock!!
    This page is going to be my comfort corner, when life stops me and tries to open my eyes to see the other side of the world, I will come to my corner and remind myself where I came from and no matter how shaky the ground is we can hold our hands together and stand back to our feet and continue on...
    You are in my prayers every minute of my day.
    My love to you sister mmpppaaaa